Shopaholic also known as Compulsive Buying Disorder can be recognised with an obsession with shopping, plus the buying behaviours that go with purchasing.
Shopping can lift ones mood and make you feel good. The name for this is shop thearapy. It triggers feel good responses in your brain. For most of us, it’s something we can enjoy, but some people maybe vulnerable to forming addictions to the habbit.
It goes beyond the feel good, which is a part of the disorder, and can become an obsessive compulsive disorder or impulse control disorder.
The roots of this disorder can stem from past childhood experiences resulting in low self worth/esteem or for a need to be in control. To learn more about the causes, check out Wikipedia’s Compulsive Buying Disorder
Hello, thanks for joining us and sharing your life. I know the questions maybe be difficult for you, so I appreciate you sharing your experiences with us.
Q~~ When did you first notice your wife had shopping issues?
A~~ When my kids refused to go shopping with us anymore.
Q~~How much time do you spend shopping?
A~~ We shop every week, but it’s the weekends that take up most of the time.
Q~~And is this both weekend days?
A~~Yes. It starts on Friday, we get paid, then we shop at stores to get simple items, that can take up to 2 hours.
Q~~So your weekend shopping starts on Friday night?
Q~~How many stores would you visit on a weekend?
A~~Friday 2-3 stores, Saturday 5-6 stores, Sunday 4-5 stores. Some of the stores we’ve visited, 2 days before but in different locations, in different towns.
Q~~When you shop do you stick to a budget?
A~~She has everything written out on how much money she will spend at every store.
Q~~Does she have the items written out too?
A~~Yes! Everything is written down. But sometimes she might buy something random, but usually it’s on the list.
Q~~When you’re not shopping, how much time is she spending preparing to shop, example, making her lists?
A~~Thursday evenings, then over the weekend the lists get adjusted.
Q~~Do you got shopping other days of the week?
A~~Yes, to pick up things we might need.
Q~~So your shopping only for groceries/home items?
A~~Yes, unless a holiday or birthday comes along.
Q~~When a holiday or birthday come along, do your shopping hours increase?
A~~Yes, it depends on the occasion. Christmas and birthdays are torcher.
Q~~Does your wife ever buy things you don’t need?
A~~Yes, she stocks up on things. Canned products, soaps, washing powders, sodas. Every week, even when we have plenty in the cupboards.
Q~~How much time does it take to choose the brands from the items on the list?
A~~Depends on the item. Paper towels can take between 5-15 minutes to choose the right one. It has to have a certain design.
Q~~So a plain white paper towel won’t do?
A~~NO! Plan white paper towels can only be used in certain parts of the house. Designed ones must be used in the kitchen and the bathroom. Tissues, if they are not in a short fat box she won’t buy them. It may take 10 minutes to find one with a pattern she likes. Washing powder has to be a certain brand. It has to be the right size or she will get upset.
Q~~Has your wife’s shopping addiction got you into debt?
A~~Yes, because we use to shop on the credit cards. I am working three jobs to pay off the debts. When I’m not working, we’re out shopping.
Q~~What makes you think your wife has a shopping addiction?
A~~Because she won’t let anybody else do the shopping for her. I have asked her to let me pick up items but if I do, she complains I never buy the “right” thing. We spend 5-6 hours a day shopping, not just one day, but 3-4. Sometimes we get home at 10pm. There was also one time, I had been in a car accident. After spending a day in hospital, with cracked bones and battered and bruised body. I was told to rest for a week. She got mad because I would not take her shopping. She said to me, “next time, you have to be dying to get out of the shopping”.
Q~~How is your shopping experiences different from other people you know?
A~~People tell me they can’t believe we go shopping this long, as they spend 2 hours a week doing grocery shopping.
Q~~Have you told your wife you do not wish to go shopping anymore?
A~~Yes, a few times and her response is, “if you do not go, then I am not going and we will not have any food. I am not just shopping for myself, I am shopping for you too”.
Q~~Thank you for your time and telling us your story.
A shopaholic may pull other people into their addiction, for justification. If somebody is supporting them with their addiction, then they do not feel they have a problem.
If you can relate to this story, then please leave a comment below and tell us about your experiences.
It may help somebody, or at the least, help us to understand this condition.
DIY Mushroom Garden Ornament
Make your own garden ornaments. This pink garden ornament was made using low cost products you can buy from any hardware store. They are fun to make, and can look beautiful in your garden.
Glass Stones Used For Decorating
You’ll need to do this outdoors or in your garage, as it can get messy.
Get your bowl and your container for the stem and spray some cooking oil on the inside.
Take some cellotape and cover the bottom of the nut. This is a little fiddly as you’ll need to cut the tape.
You could use another type of tape that sticks well. The tape is to stop the concrete from getting into the middle of the nut.
Screw your bolt into the nut and with the marker pen, draw a line around the bolt, at the bottom of the nut. When you place the nut into the concrete, it is going to be pushed down up to this line.
Get a large bowl or bucket to mix the concrete. How much you need will depend on the size of your bowl and stem container.
Follow the instructions on the package, for mixing your ready mix concrete. Once your concrete is mixed, place it into your bowl, then tap the bowl on a hard surface to get air bubbles out.
Take your bolt and push it into the concrete, in the centre of the bowl up to where you drew the line.
Now put some concrete into your stem container, to the desired height and place your nut in the centre. It needs to be flush with the top of the concrete. Tap the container gently to remove air bubbles. Now place your nut into the centre of the container. Make sure concrete does not go inside the nut.
Leave to set at least two days, three is even better, but it depends on the temperature of the air and time of year you are making it.
Stalk for the mushroom
Remove the mushroom head and stalk from the bowl and container and try screwing them together. Hopefully, they should fit snuggly, if you’ve placed the nut and bolt at the correct depth.
I have placed a hard plastic spikey garden stake at the bottom of this mushroom, as I wanted to put this one in the garden and the base is narrow. The stake will stop it from falling over.
As most bowls have a flat bottom, this means your mushroom head will have a flat top, so we need to make the top of the mushroom head smooth and rounded. I have used Selleys Perma Filler. Open your filler and with a knife, scrape some out and place it on top of the mushroom head, until you have enough, then smooth it over, so the top is nicely rounded. You will now have to wait until the filler goes hard, which could take another day.
You’re now ready to decorate the head of the mushroom with glass stones. So take your adhesive and pick your stones. Place a good amount of adhesive at the bottom of the stone and stick the stone onto the mushroom head. Make patterns and get creative, for a design that you like.
It doesn’t matter if the adhesive goes around the edges as it will be covered with grout.
Once you’ve stuck all your glass stones on, you’re going to have to wait for the adhesive to set, or they will move around when you do the next step, which is grouting in between all the spaces of the stones. I used a wall board adhesive as it is very strong. PVA glue isn’t strong enough for this, since your mushroom will be living outdoors, in all weather, the products you use need to be indoor/outdoor, wet/dry products.
Now you are ready to grout.
There are different coloured grouts available, but you can mix your own colours by adding some acrylic paint to white grout mix. I made the pink/mauve mushroom using this method, by mixing blue and red into some white grout.
Follow the instructions to make the grout. It can set fairly fast, depending how thick you’ve mixed it, so you have to move quickly to get the grout in between the gaps of the glass stones, then smooth the grout, with your fingers, but make sure you wear gloves, as grout can suck the moisture out of your hands, drying and cracking your skin.
Don’t worry to much about getting grout over the stones at first. Once you’ve smoothed the grout and are happy with it, you can then take a rag and clean the stones or there is another method you can use, and that is to scrub the stones with a hard brush, after the grout has dried. Whatever way you wish to use. I prefer to clean the stones with a rag after I’ve finished the grouting, as the grout is not rock solid yet, so it’s not hard labour cleaning it later.
Allow some time to set.
To finish the mushroom, paint the stem whatever colours you like, matching the head or paint it white or black. You can paint the underside of the mushroom head too, but it’s not that necessary, just your preference. I used acrylic paints.
Allow to dry, then to finish off, paint some grout sealer over the top of the mushroom. Give it two or three coats. You can now call your mushroom complete.
I normally spray my mushroom garden ornament with a clear varnish paint after I’ve sealed it with grout sealer. This gives it extra protection, although it’s not 100% necessary.
I would recommend you watch this video by druidessinara’s who teaches how to make these mushrooms also. If you prefer a visual lesson 😀
I LOVE Rainbows
Ever since I was little, I have loved rainbows, so it was natural for me to want rainbow hair.
I decided a professional job would be best, and booked into my local hair salon.
Before picture at the salon ready to go.
The first thing my hair dresser done, was to bleach my hair blonde and with drying time, it took around an hour.
Next the colours were added in stripes, using tin foil to separate them. First red, then orange, yellow, green, blue, purple and last a pink.
The colours were put into tin foil and then baked under some lamp.
Back view of the braided rainbow hair
The whole process took around 3 hours to complete.
I was given instructions not to wash my hair for 72 hours and not to do anything to make my head sweat.
After a few washes, the green started to fade first, then the yellow. The rest looked good for a couple of months, then they started to fade away too.
I was a little nervous about the reaction I would get from people on the street, but I received so many nice comments. People were positive and said it looked amazing.
Have you had your hair done in rainbow?
Tell us about it in the comments below, or if you’d like your hair done in rainbow, leave a comment.